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We’re Adopting!

December 1, 2016 in Our Little Cub by Tobi


Answers to your questions here.

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Avery’s Nursery

May 17, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

Creating a nursery can be a therapeutic process.  For expectant parents, painting, assembling furniture and applying the finishing touches are physical tasks that can represent the abstract… joy, anxiety, and expectation.  Creating a nursery is one way to start embracing the fact that your life is about to change forever.

I normally jump right in to decorating projects without a second thought, but I waited for quite a while before I started Avery’s nursery.  We had wanted a baby for so long and the beginning of the pregnancy was rocky.  It took time before I was ready to conquer my fears and create a physical representation of our dream of becoming parents.

This room was such a labor of love.  We spent so many hours painting, applying vinyl decals, assembling furniture, organizing gifts, picking art, hanging shelves and most importantly talking about our daughter.  About what she would be like and look like.  About things we wanted to do with her and teach her some day.  About how much we already loved her.

Now she’s here and we hope her room is fitting.  Here’s a peak at her space!

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38 and 40 Weeks

April 25, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

38 Weeks

At our 38 week appointment, our doctor found a red flag for preeclampsia that lead to a series of tests and eventually an induction at 39 weeks and 1 day.  Needless to say, we were pretty busy that week preparing for her slightly early arrival.  We had been convinced she would come late!  I didn’t have time to write a blog post, but we took this last bump photo before the big day.  We are so blessed that both mama and baby are healthy and happy thanks to the hard work of a great medical team and ultimately God’s beautiful, perfect plan.


40 Weeks


This week…

Cub is the size of a…  a real baby!  No more fruits or vegetables needed to describe this little one.  Avery Loufay was born on April 16, 2014 at 7:39pm.  She weighed 6lbs 15oz and was 21.5in long.

My bump is… gone now.  It’s certainly bittersweet to not be carrying her around inside of me anymore, but there is nothing sweeter than having her here with me and her daddy.  Hopefully I’ll be able to work on my body after baby soon, but for now I am just focused on healing and taking care of our little one.

Our favorite thing has been… finally meeting our beautiful daughter!  Her birth was nothing like what we planned, but it was the most beautiful and perfect experience for us.  I’m hoping to share her birth story soon.  It is such an example of how God shows up and works miracles in our lives every single day.

I have been feeling… tired and unbelievably happy!  Birthing a baby, recovery and bringing a newborn home for the first time are all huge challenges, but we are so thrilled to be experiencing this amazing, sleepless time as a little family.

I have been craving… homemade food, red wine, fancy unpasteurized cheeses, sleeping on my stomach, a long massage and just a few more hours of sleep.

We are looking forward to… every little first time and new discovery with Avery.  Every day is something new and fascinating.  We’re excited to find out who she is, but also to enjoy this incredible time when she is small.

From Start to Finish

We are so thrilled to have gotten the chance to go on this incredible journey!

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36 Weeks

March 31, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

DSC_0064This week…

Cub is the size of a… honeydew melon!  She had a doctor’s appointment and we saw her on an ultrasound for the first time in 17 weeks.  She’s huge!  And by huge I mean that my doctor said she looked like a healthy, regular sized baby, but Jake and I were totally in awe.  Her little heart was as big as her whole body used to be and her arms and legs were curled up tight.  It was pretty cool!  There’s a real baby in there and she can come out whenever she wants to!

My bump is… what it is.  It’s hugenormous and out there and always in the way, but I already know I’ll miss it dearly when it’s gone.  Carrying her around with me all day is the most awesome experience and she’ll only ever be this close to me once.  I’m having annoying, constant Braxton Hicks every few minutes all day long, but then she’ll just stick her little foot right out of the side of my belly like she needs to stretch out and it makes me laugh.  I only get a few more weeks of that, so I’m making them count.

Our favorite thing has been… wrapping up almost all of our big obligations and celebrating with a great overnight stay in San Francisco. We kept saying we were going to do a trip before the baby came, but our schedule was so crazy-full that we kept putting it off.  Luckily, my aunt and uncle came into town and insisted on treating us to a weekend in the city.  We stayed at a hotel downtown, ate at an incredible restaurant, cuddled in a bed with about twenty cloud-soft pillows, slept in, had room service for breakfast, shopped at all our favorite places and stopped about every half hour for drinks and appetizers.  It was JUST what we needed. They completely spoiled us and we are so grateful.  Since we’ve been back in town, we haven’t let the party stop.  We’ve had dates with friends and dinners with family.  It’s been so nice to celebrate and cut loose without a million things on the to do list.

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I have been feeling… like we’re finally there!  It feels like the peaceful end of a long journey (or just the beginning I guess).  We’ve finally made it to that point where all of our commitments are finished up and we have time together as a family to relax and take deep breaths and prepare for this baby emotionally.  We’re working on the last little bits of her room together and spending a lot of time talking about what it will be like to be parents and who she will look like and all the awesome things that we want to teach her.  We’re just waiting on her now and loving it.  In the beginning, we were just hoping to make it from one week to the next.  All we wanted was good news one day at a time.  So now, to know that we only have a few of weeks before we meet our daughter is the most calming, exciting, amazing feeling ever.

I have been craving… desserts.  And I’ve had some really good ones lately!  Banana Royales from Baskin Robbins, beignets and chocolate sauce, mousse-topped devils food cake with salted carmel ice cream, apple and berry tarts a la mode and chocolate lava cake.  Blame it on the Cub!

We are looking forward to… enjoying the last few weeks of waiting for our little girl.  We’re in no rush.


Pretty cheesy face! On Wednesdays We Wear Pink!

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34 Weeks

March 16, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

34weeksThis week…

Cub is the size of a… pineapple!  She is about eighteen inches long and weighs around five pounds.  We’re only six weeks away from her due date and her little body is already getting in gear for her big arrival by preparing her lungs for the outside world.  She’s running out of space now, so her movements have gone from sharp kicks and punches to rolls, stretches and wiggles.

My bump is… feeling a little bit beat up.  My belly feels pretty stretched and tender and always seems to be in the way.  I’m definitely a bigger, slower moving version of me, so I’m trying to give myself a break and take it easy for the last few weeks of this crazy journey.

Our favorite thing has been… the INSANE amount of exciting things that have been going on around here!

Last week my best friend Megan threw me a gorgeous Kate Spade inspired shower at Bella Mia Downtown.  The details were absolutely incredible and some of my favorite ladies in the whole wide world showed up to celebrate, including my mom, grandma, sister and mother in law.  I loved the big balloons, headband bar and delicious food.  Cub was completely showered with the cutest, most girlie gifts you can imagine.









While we were having our girl-fest, a friend and I arranged a surprise guy’s day (or “man shower” as they called it) for Jake and some of his most awesome friends.  They showed up at our door step that morning and took him on a day trip down to Firestone Walker in Paso Robles.  They spent the day “sampling” craft beers, eating good food and catching up.  All of the guys had a great trip and it meant so much to Jake to get to celebrate with them.


Later that week I celebrated my twenty-sixth birthday with lunches and dinners with family and friends and a trip to Cream for ice cream cookie sandwiches!  Yum!  Jake’s gift to me was a prenatal massage at Burke Williams which I am saving to use in a few weeks when the schedule slows down a little bit.

This week we were treated to our third and final shower, a delicious brunch at Abby’s Kitchen in Brentwood.  My mother in law and sister in law did an incredible job with a sweet pink and leopard themed soiree.  The food and decor were amazing and my MIL gave a beautiful devotional to me about becoming a mother that made me tear up in front of everyone.  Cub got some more great gifts to finish off her growing collection of completely adorable belongings.








After all that showering, we received her pack and play, stroller, glider, crib, and nearly all of the smaller necessities we need to bring her home.  Yesterday, we went out and bought her car seat.  It’s finally starting to feel like we are prepared to have a real baby in the house, which is good because she’ll be here before we know it!  Her room is really coming together and we can’t wait to share photos soon.

I have been feeling… ready for a change of pace!  Like I mentioned before, things are wrapping up with our busy schedule within the next couple of weeks and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  It will feel great to have a few more things off my plate.  I’m focused on everything that has to be done, but I’m starting to put more of a priority on slowing down, enjoying the time we have left and preparing myself emotionally for the big event ahead.  Relaxation is a huge part of what we have been practicing in our birth classes the past few months and I’m excited to use that training to get my mind in the right place before this little girl decides to make her appearance.

I have been craving… sweets and pizza!  I know this baby takes after her dad, because those are his two favorite things, not mine!

We are looking forward to… things slowing down a little bit, making final preparations for Cub’s arrival and our last few weeks just the two (or four) of us.

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32 Weeks

March 2, 2014 in Uncategorized by Tobi

32weeksThis week…

Cub is the size of a… squash!  She is about sixteen inches long and weighs around four pounds.  At this point, she’s gaining up to a half a pound a week putting on baby weight for her big debut!  She rocked her check up this week and we found out that as of now, she is head down which is great news for getting her here safely.

My bump is… still growing.  My first little stretch marks appeared this week, and as much as I told myself to stay calm, I’ll admit I freaked out a little bit!

Our favorite thing has been… Cub’s first baby shower!  We were so spoiled by our family and friends in Southern California with a beautiful cub-themed shower.  Every detail was so thoughtful and adorable from the onesie banner to the “cub cakes”.  One of my favorite things was the collection of childrens’ books that Cub received from each of the guests. It was a fast, fun trip and it meant so much to us to celebrate with the people I grew up with.






We’ve been working hard in our (very scarce) spare time to get ready for Cub’s arrival.  From decorating her room and sorting out the essentials to finalizing our birth plan and making arrangements with family, there is so much to be done.  Our hospital bags are packed and ready to go though, so that’s one big thing off of the list!

We also got our maternity photos back this week and absolutely love them.  We can’t wait to share them with Cub when she’s older.






I have been feeling… like I am in survival mode lately.  The clock seems to be ticking down pretty quickly and we have so much packed into the next few weeks.  Some days I live off my to do list, but I have to remind myself that I am slowly making progress, even if I am slower than ever before!  Just feeling her roll or kick around makes me feel better though.  Once she’s here the to do list will probably seem a lot less important.

It was a bit of a tough week.  Things seemed to be going awry from the very beginning and then on Wednesday I woke up with a lot of sharp pain in one side and spent several hours in bed and in touch with my doctor and the Labor & Delivery Department.  Eventually the intense pain subsided, but for the next 48 hours I felt pretty beat up.  They finally wanted me to come in for observation after some painful contractions on Thursday evening.  We weren’t scared because Cub was moving around pretty often the entire time, but the contractions and the Labor & Delivery visit still weren’t fun.  On the up side, we got an inside tour of the department and listened to Cub’s gorgeous heartbeat for about an hour.  After a thorough check up, everything ended up looking great and indicating that Cub is planning on staying put for a while.  It was nice to have that worry off our minds.  Hopefully next time we go in will be in about eight weeks for the real deal!

I have been craving… sweets still.  It’s been bad.  If you haven’t tried the Unreal Peanut Butter Cups you are missing out.  Poor Jake thought he bought them for himself and then was surprised when they all disappeared.  Oops!

We are looking forward to… two fabulous showers for the next two weekends!  One is being hosted here in San Jose by my best friend  and the second by my amazing mother-in-law and sister-in-law in Jake’s hometown.  How spoiled are we!?  To make the next two weeks even sweeter, my mom, sister and grandmother will be visiting as well.  Oh yeah, and it’s my birthday next week!  Can’t wait!

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30 Weeks

February 16, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi


This week…

Cub is the size of a… head of lettuce!  She is about fifteen inches long and weighs around three pounds.  She’s a funny girl who has decided to be completely sideways in my belly.  She has plenty of time to turn around, but I ask her nicely every day as a reminder.

My bump is… big, just big.  Almost anything physical… from working out, to getting in and out of the car and even sleeping is quite a challenge.  The craziest part is that I know it still has the capability of getting bigger.  I guess we’ll see!

Our favorite thing has been… getting to feel almost everything she does these days.  It used to be that I could feel strong kicks and jabs, but she’s so big now that I can feel every roll and stretch and elbow.  I love it!

We had such a wonderful Valentine’s Day.  Besides romancing each other, we got to spend some time dreaming about meeting our little one soon.  It’s bittersweet since we know that the next ten weeks will fly by and then it will never be just the two of us (or four of us) again!

This weekend we also got to do our maternity with Jake’s cousin Ashley of Cain Photography.  She makes photos so much fun.  We had a blast taking photos all over Coloma and then hanging out with Ben and Ashley and their three amazing boys afterwards.  We love the sneak peeks from the shoot and can’t wait to see all of her work.  I get so excited thinking about getting to show these to Cub someday and telling her all about how much we loved her before she even arrived.






I have been feeling… busy busy busy.  Like I said, ten weeks seems like nothing at this point.  There is so much to do with work, preparing for Cub’s arrival and our other commitments.  We want to get as much done as possible now so that we can really enjoy the time off together as a family in April.

I have been craving… Sweets!  Let’s just say my Valentine’s candy is all gone and Jake had to make a late night Baskin Robbin’s run last week.  It’s been sort of fun to have cravings, but they honestly aren’t too intense.  Oh, but oranges… always oranges.

We are looking forward to… our first shower is this coming weekend with my family and friends in Southern California.  It’s a long drive, but I can’t wait to share this milestone with all the people I grew up with.

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28 Weeks

February 3, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

28 weeks

This week…

Cub is the size of an… eggplant!  She is around fourteen inches long and weighs about two and a half pounds.  Recently, her nervous, immune and respiratory systems have started to do all kinds of cool things to prepare her for being born, like practice breathing and emitting brain waves.  Twenty eight weeks is the beginning of the third trimester and a milestone in pregnancy because it’s around the time babies reach viability.  This means that if Cub were born now, she would be really premature and have a long fight ahead of her, but she would also have a great chance at surviving… over 90%!  Some people might not think that’s too impressive, but to me and lots of other pregnant women, it’s a little celebration.  Of course, we aren’t hoping for her to be born anytime soon.  She’s got about twelve more weeks to bake and she can take all the time she needs.

My bump is… still growing!  There is a lot of baby in there and she is only going to get bigger.  Sometimes it feels like it’s going to explode!  There isn’t a lot of room left for, you know… my stomach, lungs or bladder, but I just try to stay comfortable and remember that I only get about three more months of carrying her around so I have to cherish it.

Our favorite thing has been… getting closer and closer to her arrival every week.  We know the next 12 weeks will fly by.  We’ve had so many lovely conversations about what it will be like to meet her, but it still doesn’t feel even close to real!

We’re working hard to prepare for labor and delivery with our weekly birth classes, eating right, staying in shape and doing relaxation exercises every night.  I especially like those because usually Jake gives me a massage… score!

Cub’s check ups are once a month now.  She had one this week and everything looked great.  Her heart sounded healthy and things are measuring just right.  She is constantly moving around, especially when it is quiet and still.  When things are loud and I’m moving around a lot, she prefers taking a snooze over joining in.

I have been feeling… just fine.  I had a cold this week and I was a little bit miserable, but now that I’m feeling better it’s easier to handle the other uncomfortable things (see lack of room for organs, above).  I’m embracing my awkwardness, so now I just roll off of beds and couches and allow whatever huffs and puffs to escape my lips as I pick things up or tie my shoes.  I’m realizing there aren’t extra points for grace in this situation and that’s ok.

I have been craving… Subway sandwiches and fried eggs on toast.  I need to be fed regularly or I become a very rotund swamp monster with a tendency to cry over anything at all.  It’s ok if I don’t have a reason… I’ll just make one up.

We are looking forward to… our first shower this month with friends and family in Southern California.  This will be our last trip down before Cub arrives.  We’re also excited about taking some maternity photos this week to commemorate this crazy awesome journey.

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We’re finally getting a little bit of much needed rain here in California. Praying that it really gets going!

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26 Weeks

January 19, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi


This week…

Cub is the size of a… head of lettuce!  She’s longer than a foot and weighs almost two pounds.  From here on out her main job is to gain baby weight.  My weekly updates may be less than accurate since babies will vary in length and weight until they are born.  We do know she can hear us and that she spends most of the day either sleeping or kicking and punching around for entertainment.

My bump is… large and in charge.  I definitely have to move differently now, a fact I’m reminded of every morning when I awkwardly roll out of bed.  Picking things off the floor and tying my shoes have become my least favorite activities and I’m interested to see how much bigger I’ll get from here.

Our favorite thing has been…  preparing for Cub’s arrival!  We’re finally at the place to make birth plans, work on her nursery and talk about showers.  Her room is all painted and cleaned and ready to collect all the sweet little things we need to bring her home.  I’m excited to share some of our progress soon.  We’re back to our normal schedule of being busy nearly every week night, so it’s fun to do little projects when we can and day dream about when we’ll get to meet her.  We’re finishing up the second trimester and we know the next three months will fly by!


Just the beginning of Cub’s grey, white and gold Kate Spade inspired nursery!


Little miss is already building her miniature sized wardrobe!

I have been feeling… just like a six month pregnant woman should… large, awkward and excited.  I won’t lie and say it’s always comfortable, but I’m doing alright so far and consider myself pretty lucky.

I have been craving… Mexican food (no surprise there) and Haagen-Dazs vanilla milk chocolate almond bars (thank goodness for the snack size)!

We are looking forward to… Cub’s next doctor’s appointment, reaching the third trimester and gearing up for some great showers with family and friends!


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24 Weeks

January 5, 2014 in Our Little Cub by Tobi

DSC_0267This week…

Cub is the size of a… cantaloupe!  She’s almost a foot long and weighs about a pound and a third.  She’s constantly kicking and dancing around in there, which we love.  She had a check up this week and everything looked perfect.  We feel really blessed that she is doing so well.

My bump is… pretty round, but I think I’m finally starting to get used it.  I’m feeling more and more comfortable as I slow down and take things day by day instead of expecting to be able to do everything I used to just as quickly.

Our favorite thing has been…  a fabulous Christmas with each of our families.  We enjoyed the time to relax and catch up.  Cub really is so loved and spoiled already.  Our favorite gifts for her were some pretty clothes, adorable tiny Toms and her very first nativity.  She also received a beautiful crocheted dress that my grandmother wore when she was a baby.  It is completely precious to us.

Since we’ve been back home from our travels, we’ve also been enjoying getting the house and nursery ready for Cub.  Her little closet is already amazing, we’ve picked the paint and built her dresser.  I also had to have the carpets cleaned and every storage space in the house organized.  I think this is considered nesting.

We started our Bradley Method birth class today and we’re already pumped to take on this challenge as a team.  I am blown away by how supportive and excited Jake is to be my birth coach.  He has big plans!

I have been feeling… fantastic.  Physically I have no serious complaints and emotionally it’s been nice to have some time off of work with family and friends.  I’m feeling healthy, happy and strong and I’ve really been enjoying this time with our little family.

I have been craving… Greek food today.  We satisfied the craving with a quick trip to Opa! for some tasty gyros.  Other than that I’ve been enjoying bananas, breakfast foods and anything with garlic.  No real “do or die” cravings still.

We are looking forward to… continuing to prepare for our little girl.  Jake will paint her room in the next couple of weeks and plans for baby showers are underway.  Returning to work, crossfitting, nesting and homework for our birth classes will keep us busy in the New Year!